Be a winner. When you thrive to win their is nothing that can get in your way. Not a situation, no relationship, not a friendship will stop you. If your spouse loves you they will want to will along side of you, your friend will want what’s best for you and things will come together for you.

Winners find ways out of none, take risk most will not, and do all that can be done in order to get a step closer to the destination.

Don’t let anything or anyone stop you, is it’s what you want to do.. do it.

Steadily winning.

It’s Shalysa.



Yes I’m 24 and people like to say “you’re young you have your whole life ahead of you” or “you’re young you have time” 24 is young to you but not as young to me. To me 24 is the perfect age to be almost where I want to be because by 25 I will have it MOST together. 30? Oh I will be definitely be ALL IN. 24 might be too young to have heart problems, so that’s why I have health insurance. 24 is too young to have relationship issues , so I married at 23. 24 is too young to have a lot of children and to be struggling , reasoning behind me not going that route. 24 is young enough for the right things and the right age for me to be nearly successful.

It’s Shalysa

Happy New Year

It’s a new year, a fresh start, a chance to improve and enhance. We all don’t make resolutions in the beginning and that’s fine as long as we have plans to be further than we were last year. Ambitions people love to succeed so let’s all be ambitious and start NOW.

A few days before last year was out I did vision boards with my sister , my daughter and my nieces, and somethings I put on my board were definitely easily accomplishable and others are “you better work hard” and you can accomplish them, so this year I’m challenging myself to accomplish 90% of the things on my board, and you should do it too. If you haven’t made one it’s not too late and do not make it easy!

Set goals that will make you work hard and feel great about them in the end. Set goals that are going to lead you in a direction of other goals. Goals that will keep you so busy you forget about social media (unless social media is included in your craft). Goals that will keep you focused on what you have aligned and if it’s not that , it doesn’t matter. Make greater decisions this years and aim higher because I will.

Happy new year🎇❤

It’s Shalysa. 

Think about it…

We are society and what we won’t allow can’t possible stand long. As a unit we should stick together and go after what’s right. Society is against relationships and marriage. Why do you think it takes for you to be a “single mother” to get most benefits. They even have “single mother” scholarships. Are they saying in order to get a little help in life we have to be single mothers? That’s bogus to me. 
So what if we have to work a little harder to purchase groceries on our own as a family if they take away food stamps!! That’s teaching our children early “baby life doesn’t hand you things”. It’s reducing laziness and encouraging our youth to be strong adults as they grow older. 
We give up so easily as women. “Oh he didn’t do this” or “oh he did that” well did you talk to him ? Listen to him? Do you both have an understanding of each other ? If so, why not work it out? So every time something happen you’re gonna run off and “move on” ? Life will commit he to get tougher and it’s not degrading yourself it’s doing what you have to do as an adult and going against the statics by sticking by your mate and becoming the family that jealous people don’t want you to be.
As women from the beginning we have to have morals of course. That means protect ourselves first. If we know we want to one day become a family with someone. Ot doesn’t necessarily means give in and do what he wants. It means to let him earn you , grow to really love you so that in the event things happen it’s not hard for him to want to spend the rest of his life with you. Which will also go against what society wants from us and become a family.
This can reduce the high rate in “single mothers” and once the world understand how important it is to have a family maybe we’ll have more family related scholarships and governmental benefits will be for people who are really in need. 
Think about it… 

it’s shalysa !!

The road isn’t easy 

As we start to get older we understand that it doesn’t take a crowd to have fun, it doesn’t take a whole lot of money to to be happy, and it doesn’t always mean be hungry in order to eat. Wtbs. We live and learn, certain things people tell us because they care but it takes for us to still do what we were told not to in order to learn a lesson. 

As a 24 year old married mother I’ve gone through things and it’s nothing that I would ever regret. It’s just time I fix things that can be fixed and be sure that I make the correct choices moving forward, for my child and my family. 

It’s no book of life that lets is know when and how to do things so we walk by faith and support day by day. Often times we spend time wondering why certain things happened when we can wonder for two seconds and attempt to do better immediately after. 

So the year isn’t over yet and we have plenty of time to get on the right path to be deep into our success path by January. Why wait? Let’s start now. 

Continue being great,



Strength comes from being able to endure anything that someone says, forgive for what they’ve done and not feeling a need for retaliation. Strength is a development of different situations that you’ve gone through in your life and you still remained sane. Strength is from within and can be justified also as a physical motion. Living life we have to use our strength to ignore ignorance and to be able to move forward. 
For a long time I’ve struggled with having closure. I’m now twenty three and realizing that it’s not always necessary. The strength in me helped me to understand that when its in gods hands and he says it’s ok, ITS OKAY!! 

It’s Shalysa.


We confide in others but ignore the feedback. We ask questions but care less about an answer. We spend all day and night weeping about why things are going the way that they are for us, but have yet to take even baby steps towards positive change. 
In order to want better, we have to do better. We can say it’s hard, we was raised a certain way, we’re in it too deep but guess what?? Those are all excuses !! We are adults and I’m sure it’s hard but in order to be able to get through it and leave it behind we have to make attempts first. Being raised a certain way has an affect on you growing up however when you are given up and seen the right way of doing things, it’s time to put that excuses to rest. You can never be in it to deep if you hold some form of ambition, ambition for what you want for yourself. Right now it’s not about your children because they are clearly well cared for, it’s not about your pride , and it’s not about being afraid. It’s about leaving the pitty you have for yourself in the past and moving forward with what you plan to accomplish. 
You will be successful.

It’s Shalysa