If it’s something you really want to do,focus on just that. Often times we get distracted by things that will not help us get to where we want and that causes a set back in our lives. It’s easy to get off track for some of us but for others we do anything necessary to do what we have to do.

I’m a person who is 89% focused and it’s something that has hindered me in the past. At times I’m so focused that no one in the world can redirect my attention but all it takes is for me to say “you need a break” and just like that I turn my own attention else where. So their were different ways I came up with to stay focused. I decided to write daily notes and quotes to myself regarding staying focused along with reasons why it’s extremely important. I’m a leader to my daughter and whatever I do she may feel it’s okay for her to do as well.

Create a way that’s easier for you to remain focused on your goals or whatever it is that you want to accomplish. Let’s see how well it works for you and I both.

It’s Shalysa !


You’re first!

As human a lot of us spend so much time making sure everyone else is fine when we forget to put that same effort into ourselves.

For a long time I was always that one person that would stop everything I’m doing to help whoever, even if that meant me being without or risking something. I always felt entitled to find a way out of none for people who I’m realizing will never put that same energy in for me.

As I get older I realize more and more why certain people worry about themselves and have that “if I can’t do it I can’t do it” attitude. They seem happier overall.

As people we should always put ourselves first and not feel bad for not being able to do things or be there for everyone all the time.

Im further than ever with putting myself first and still have some growing to do…

It’s Shalysa !

You have yourself!

When things get tougher , a great change is coming soon. We might feel like we have no one, or it’s nothing that can be done but as long as we keep faith, their will be a break through.

It can be the job you want to leave but cannot because of the responsibilities. It can be a friendship that’s not as strong as it was before, it can be s relationship that has some issues or your life generally.

If no one is there for you, you should be. As long as we continue to strive it creates strength in which keeps things moving two steps closer to being successful.

When it gets tough think of the original reason you started.

It’s Shalysa

Being Strong

Being strong,

When you are a strong person everyone feels as though you have everything under control and that you may never need help with anything. One thing about a strong person is that they can be strong for certain situations and for others some sort of assistance may be needed. Even strong people have a breaking point.

In a relationship your spouse may always see you as the strong one and in the event you call out to them for something physical or mental that you’re usually able to do alone they might not take it as serious.. they’re use to you making a away. This then brings other unintentional issues.

In a friendship you might be the go to friend, when everyone needs help you’re the one whose there to help and when you’re in need of the help everyone expects you to pull through on your own.

Strong people has weak points, so if you’re the strong person in these situations try to cut back more to be your own shoulder to lean on in these cases. If you’re a friend or spouse of a strong person try to be there for them more and know when to offer assistance without being asked to as that strong person is always there for you.

It’s Shalysa.



Often times when we are on the road to doing well distractions are gonna come about. Distractions are things, people and situations that gets on the way when we are trying to move ahead into something. Distractions can be both good and not so good. Distractions can delay the process in us becoming successful, and it can also help us pause when things are stressful; then once we’ve overcame that distraction we are able to move along at a smoother paste.

I myself always have many things going, I was able to narrow it down to just a few and finally get on the roll to get things done. I was exhausted as I’ve given myself deadlines in which we’re kind of unrealistic. This caused stress and I started to get distracted. For me the distraction was good; moreover a bit longer than I expected. I was finally able to get over my distraction and now I’m ready to move along and faster than ever. My suggestion to deadlines are to evaluate the situation as a whole and give yourself a realistic deadline, add some breathers in there and remember you are doing this for you!

Distractions aren’t always bad, we just have to stay on top of what’s for us.

Your distraction, your choice.

It’s Shalysa.

What’s for you, is for you

Often time we dread doing things we have always wanted to do because someone has already done it before we were able to get to it. If something is for you, it is for you. Do not let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do. If you want to open up a business, open that business! Its billions of businesses out in the world and tons of them sell the same things. When you have a passion to do something it should be nothing anyone can say or do to stop you.

For along time prior to me writing and publishing my first book, I dreaded writing books because I saw that a lot of people close to me and people I knew were writing books. I thought maybe this isn’t for me because my friend have done it , and maybe I shouldn’t do it because that person who I don’t know so well might feel like I’m copying her. The entire time I still enjoyed writing. One day I chose to put all of that aside and to pursue what I actually wanted to do. It was tough in the beginning but things got easy only because that was meant for me.

Now if its not for you, do not force it and try to do something you enjoy doing. Just remember despite of what others are doing. Do what makes you happy because what’s for you, is for you.


Its Shalysa


Stability is important and comes with all kind of benefits. I often times get upset at work and want to quit because I’m tired of doing the same thing, saying the same things and being around the same people but I also have to think of it as stability. A lot of jobs out here aren’t stabled ones, some jobs we have to accept along with looking for another one as we’re working. My job pays well, has great benefits(medical, dental, vision, 401k, tuition reimbursement) great shifts, advancements, raises, and bonuses. It’s when I think of all my job has to offer I begin to humble myself. I would rather wait until I get into a career I truly want, than to leave my job for one I’m unsure about.

This is for people who feel the same way I do about my job , with their jobs. Just weigh out your options and be mindful of the blessing you currently have especially if its stability. 

Happy Tuesday loves

It’s Shalysa